I know this is like extremely depressing lol but when I look at people I would consider dating/marrying, 1 of the “litmus tests” I have for myself is the answer to this question: “if this marriage were to fall apart, could I see myself coparenting successfully with this person?”
There’s some people who are very petty and this is my first thought, just genuinely “if I married this person and we ended up divorcing, could I trust this person to provide our kids with a positive environment on their own/with a new partner, can I trust this person to raise these kids without trying to retailiate against me, could this person be trusted to watch out for the best interests of our children even if it included something he didn’t want to do” & let me tell u… so many people become unattractive when u get the answers to those questions
#this is good advice even if you don’t intend to have kids
the kicker is he was being asked if his work was coming from the approach of man vs. nature aka “THE ENVIRONMENT STRIKES BACK” but no. his literal words were along the lines of “sharks are not very scary if you are never in the water so i had to make them scarier, and now they have legs.”